Grief is messy and definitely isn’t linear. Everyone mentions firsts and anniversary days but the reality is that even an ordinary day can change from okayish to **** in an instant. The ‘little’ things in life are daily and sometimes are the hardest. They catch you unawares and can be as simple as closing the curtains, to fixing something in the house, to tidying a drawer, to attending a vaccination appointment, and even to peeling a swede!

The little things are a daily reminder that grief cannot be fixed, and time doesn’t heal. However I know grief does eventually change, and in time I will grow a life around my loss. For the next year or so though it is about learning to live with grief and my changed world. Getting outside helps. It isn’t always easy but is nearly always a positive step. It helps build resilience, and can even stop a hard day from becoming a day of anguish. Watching clouds, listening to and observing birds, and walking in nature mostly does settle the mind and body. I am very fortunate that I am able to get outside daily and walk.

I am also fortunate that so many of you have been joining me this month walking and blogging. Hobbies are a great distraction, and are another thing my counsellor is encouraging me to do. So if you have not yet joined the Squares gang on a walk why not do so this week. It is really easy. First create your square post, and include a pingback to one of my daily square posts and also the theme tag WalkingSquares. I will visit you, hopefully the same day but please do bear with me if it is few days before I respond to comments or squares.

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    1. Always better to ask then not ask I’d say, even if it is just to mention their loved one’s name. You can never upset us more than we already are

      And you are so right about those kind of walks, wonderful. Thank you so much for your kind words

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  10. Ever so true Becky. I did have to smile at peeling a Swede. So I hope you are getting on with your hobbies like taking photos using you lovely camera xx

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      1. That would make chips. Thin slices with oil in a pan with maybe rosemary and thyme, seasoned with salt and pepper to taste and in the oven until done 😁

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        2. Have a go at my “just made up recipe” and you can have two people to think about peeling swedes.
          I’ll check when I go to the Greengrocer tomorrow to see if there are any Swedes x

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  15. Grief cannot be fixed and time does not heal but you are so right, one learns to live with grief and for you, it will take  time.  To get out even for a short time, is so good for one.

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  20. Well, my only advice would be to put that swede aside and have something else. Never did like them! Other than that, just put one foot in front of the other, one foot in front of the other. It’s lovely having you back and, like most on here, I’m happy to accompany you on your walks in whatever way works for you.

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