I am not quite ready for roaming the countryside on my own yet. Consequently all of my walks tend to be on well trodden footpaths or in extensive public gardens where I know someone is always a shout away. Having said that I also value the time alone whether listening to an audiobook or caught up with my own thoughts. That’s the thing about intense and active grieving. Your wants and your needs can change in an instant, a bit like how my life was changed in an instant in April.

Feeling safe though is something I always need and want. Robert for the past 25 years has been my safety, even on the days when I was providing the support to him and/or being a strong independent woman. So it has been a shock to the system to find I now need to create that feeling of safety myself. I am fortunate though there are plenty of safe walks around me I can return to again and again. Exploring Hampshire’s arboretum is one of those, plus there is always something new and unusual to discover here.

There’s always something new to discover at Sir Harold Hillier Gardens

I’d love it if you joined me and took a Square photograph on a walk this week. Our square community is so supportive and safe, and if you use the theme’s tag WalkingSquares we can find each other easily. Don’t forget also to include a pingback to my daily square posts.

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  3. While I worry about how Garry could manage without me, I know that I can’t imagine going on without him. I suppose when we have been together for so many years, we become part of each other.

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      1. And yet, I have come to understand that it WILL happen — to him or to me but that hope that we both evaporate simultaneously. That’s what we wish for, but it doesn’t happen. So I’m trying to understand what this means and how we can deal with it.

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        1. oh I know what you mean about evaporate simultaneously. Part of me wishes that still . . . . the advice I would give it make sure all the household bills are in both your names, keep take zillions of photos of each other and also record random conversations. Knowing I can still hear his voice when I want is a huge bonus for me . . and whatever happens remember grief is unique and to do it your way whatever anyone else says xxx

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